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I am sitting with Bryan at one of my 5-Day Inner Bonding Intensives. Bryan is talking about one entity afterward another, and I cannot emulate him at all. Nor can I join with him. My solitude in sitting with him is giving me important message - that he is in his head, in his wounded self, protecting against his feelings and responsibility for his feelings.
"Bryan, would you be ambitioning to take a deep breath and put your converge into your heart?"
Bryan starts to discussion with me, asking irrelevant answers, deflecting, trying to pluck me into his system of avoidance.
"I’m surprising what you are avoiding feeling?" I gently ask him.
"I don't know." He looks by me expectantly, waiting for me to acquaint him what he is avoiding.
"What are you feeling right this minute?"
"I don't know."
"Bryan, it appears to me namely resistance is your God - that resisting is more important to you than being loving to yourself and others."
I see a light glow in his eyes and a small smile come to his face. He knows exactly what I mean at this.
"Yes," he says. "I don't want to be intruded."
I feel deep compassion for this youth man. His resistance tells me volumes. It tells me that he has a extremely invasive parent - which corners out to be his mommy - and that he had to learn to avoid her tentacles in numerous different ways. Being smart and articulate, he knowledgeable to linger in his head and talk as a way to reserve himself safe from being controlled by anybody.
The problem is that his talking pushes human away and now Bryan is very lonesome. What started out as a gorgeous coping mechanism has now turned into his jail. His terror of invasion leads him to isolate, which makes his wonderful, smart and playful internal tiny chap very lonely. When he is around folk,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych],[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], as at the intensive,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych],[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], he has a hard period being open due to this same fear.
Bryan absences apt develop a loving Adult who can protect him against invasion in healthy ways, such as mentioning yeah when he method yeah,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], and not when he manner no. He absences a loving Adult who can tune into his sensibilities and let him understand when something namely trying to be invasive, instead of performing for whether everyone is trying to control him and shutting everyone out.
"Bryan, my suggestion to you is to proceed doing exactly what you are act, merely now do it consciously. Resist as much and as hard as you can. Do it on purpose preferably than unconsciously. Only via awareness of your alternative will another choice transform obtainable to you."
Fortunately, Bryan did no resist being aware of his resistance. He discovered that his resistance was ubiquitous, and it made him feel quite sorrowful.
"Bryan, when someone is being invasive and trying to control you,[link widoczny dla zalogowanych], are they being loving or unloving?"
"It feels unloving to me."
"How does it feel in your heart when someone ambition to suck the life out of you or have control over you?"
"It feels dreadful. Kind of heartbreaking."
"Yes, that is exactly how it feels. And this feeling in your heart is letting you kas long assomeone is being unloving. If you can recognize it with sympathy as yourself, then you can open to studying with your Higher Self approximately what would be loving to you in the face of another's invasiveness. If you listened to your Higher Self and took the loving action, you would feel safe from invasiveness without having to go into your head alternatively shut down and withdraw."
Many others in the Intensive identified with Bryan. Carl achieved that he obtained hard and judgmental when he felt another's unloving behavior. Susan agreed to getting vexed and judgmental when her terrors of refusal got activated. Allen and Josh achieved that they, also, accustom going into their heads and talking as a direction to avoid their bitter gist feelings that got activated when others were being unloving, or they were fearful of rejection.
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